Six-Week Program for Understanding and Changing Addictive Patterns

Six-Week Program for Understanding and Changing Addictive Patterns

This is a six-session coaching program for people who want to stop repeating the same addictive or self-defeating patterns and understand what is actually driving them.

If insight, motivation, or discipline have not held, the issue is not effort. It is that the pattern has not been addressed at the level where it forms.

This program works at that level.

What this program is for

This program is for people who:

• Repeatedly fall back into the same behaviors despite knowing better

• Feel caught between wanting change and sabotaging it

• Have tried forcing, abstaining, or managing symptoms without stability

• Want clarity about what kind of action actually changes the pattern

It applies to substance use, compulsive habits, emotional reactivity, overworking, and destructive relationship dynamics.

How the program works

The program is built around the Four Quadrants of Self-Esteem and Behavior model.

Across six sessions, we map how your emotional states, identity narratives, and behavioral responses reinforce each other. You learn why certain behaviors feel necessary, how attempts to control them often backfire, and what kind of response weakens the loop instead of strengthening it.

The work progresses from observation to application.
Nothing is rushed. Nothing is forced.

What we work through across the six sessions

Establishing orientation

• Identifying your dominant quadrant patterns

• Naming the primary addictive or compulsive behavior

• Learning to observe emotions, thoughts, and responses without judgment

Understanding emotional triggers

• Mapping the emotions and situations that activate the pattern

• Seeing addiction as an emotional regulation strategy, not a moral failure

• Tracking urges and responses to make the logic visible

Working with identity narratives

• Identifying the internal stories that justify or sustain the behavior

• Separating who you are from what you habitually do

• Learning to interrupt self-critical or collapsing narratives

Rebuilding self-respect through action

• Clarifying personal values and boundaries

• Choosing small, values-based actions that reinforce self-respect

• Practicing boundaries as identity work, not discipline

Responding to regression and relapse

• Understanding regression without identity collapse

• Learning a quadrant-based recovery loop for setbacks

• Developing a clear response plan for future slips

Integration and independence

• Consolidating identity shifts

• Anchoring self-respect as a lived reference point

• Building a personal self-coaching structure for ongoing use

What you leave with

By the end of the program, you will have:

• A clear understanding of how your addictive pattern operates

• Practical ways to interrupt the loop when it activates

• Greater confidence in choosing actions that align with your values

• A framework you can continue using independently

Many people experience this as a turning point, not because the struggle disappears, but because confusion does.

Program structure

• Six one-on-one sessions via Zoom, each 90 minutes

• Simple between-session practices to support integration

• Supporting materials and reflection tools

What this program is not

• It is not therapy

• It is not motivational coaching

• It does not promise quick transformation

It is a structured process for understanding and changing addictive patterns without relying on force.

Bonus: Includes the 117-page Four Quadrants Recovery Guide, which we’ll use throughout the program.
If you’ve already purchased the guide, enter the voucher code from your invoice email at checkout to get a €49 discount.